Success is Sexy

Toweling myself off after a piping hot shower, hair-conditioned, I hear the sounds of young giggles and dad’s voice and then a loud thump and ensuant howling cries. Something has happened to our 6-year old, just outside the bathroom door. I hear mom respond, continue toweling off, listening through the door.

I think how parenting is a continuous series of appreciating the present state. I imagine how I would play this moment – part coddling and just being with the sobs – lovingly reporting in agreement with my child: “Yeah, that sucks. OW!”

I exit the bathroom and stand in the doorway of her 6 yr-old bedroom, walls pink, watching for a moment as she wriggles away, slightly determined to replace mom’s soothing embrace with her own sense of independence or at least dramatic gesture of “this still sucks”.

As I catch her dried up eyes, I say: “that was a good one.” Her head nods.

Just moments later, as I get dressed in the other room, I hear mom instructing dad: “We need fireworks”.

What? Fireworks? Is that code for “we need grand distraction”?

47 seconds pass, and dressed now, I go into the living room and see the Apple monitor and hear “boom boom boom…

Dad and 6 year old close up – her leg bobbing to the music, mom standing behind, me getting drawn in closer.

It’s a Tv show? a music video? It’s YouTube…It’s Katy Perry and a profound message disguised in sheep’s clothing as a music video.

It’s a message about accepting who you are. Despite that inner naysayer that doesn’t dare to be different, that can’t stand who you are when you don’t feel like you fit in. That inner bully. The separtist. The part of us that’s mute and stuck in the limits of our self-bondage of not feeling good enough, wanted or part of in the looming presence of just wanting to BELONG.

And I’ve fallen in love with this song, this video, the part of me that feels close to my “family” here in this moment. The part of me that knows my purpose is to ignite others, to be a positive impact. The part of me that wants you to be free.

And I stand there side by side with the 6 yr-old, playing the video again and again and with Dad now behind me, sitting at the breakfast table, looking on us bee-boppin, mesmerized by the moment, the message, the breakthroughs, the fireworks, my tears, I see his tears too.

“But then they danced down the streets like dingledodies, and I shambled after as I’ve been doing all my life after people who interest me, because the only people for me are the mad ones, the ones who are mad to live, mad to talk, mad to be saved, desirous of everything at the same time, the ones that never yawn or say a commonplace thing, but burn, burn, burn like fabulous yellow roman candles exploding like spiders across the stars and in the middle you see the blue centerlight pop and everybody goes ‘Awww!’”— Jack Kerouac (On the Road)

Are you mad enough…to live an uncommon life? To burn and pop? To make a bigger, deeper impact?

Assuming that’s a YES, I can help. If we were a good fit to work together, and we would need to assess that together, I promise that you will have a future you wouldn’t have had otherwise because of our work together.

Ready? Email me at MarcieProhofsky@gmail.com now for a complimentary discovery and strategy session.